I often get asked what it is I do, and sometimes I find it really hard to tell people -- not because I don't know, or I'm confused -- it's actually because I find what I do so vitally important that I get stuck trying to convey not just WHAT I do, but WHY I do it, and why it's so important. That's what this post is for; to give you a little insight into what I'm talking about and why it matters.
You are a triune being.
Here's the thing, whether you want to accept it or not there is more to you than a physical body. You have emotions, you have personality, you have a whole host of beliefs and perceptions that make you who you are. Those things aren't physical. They are actually part what make up your three parts: spirit, soul, and body.
Your spirit is who you are at the core. Your beliefs, your identity. It's the part of you that will live on when your body ultimately returns to the earth. Your soul is your mind, your thoughts, your emotions, and the thing that allows you to execute on your free will. And then of course, there is your physical body, which is basically a car you're driving around.
These three parts were intimately connected when your body was formed. Because they are connected, one part cannot live without the other two. Think about someone who's kept on life support or brain dead; they may be breathing and their heart is beating, but they are not really alive, at least not like they used to be.
Why does this matter?
Many people are very good at something. Whether that's sports, business, parenting, etc. Almost everyone has innate skills that make them awesome at something. The problem is, these people often get great by sacrificing the other areas of their life. Many CEO's have struggling family relationships. Many creatives struggle to make ends meet. Tons of parents aren't great at making money.
That's when being great becomes, well... not so great. Especially when it comes to living whole, happy, and to your fullest potential.
"There are three motives for which we live; we live for the body, we live for the mind; we live for the soul. None of these is better or holier than the other; all alike are desirable, and no one of the three--body, mind, or soul--can live fully if either of the others is cut short of full life and expression." - Wallace D. Wattles
While Wattles' word choice differs (what he calls soul, I deem spirit), his point rings true. If a single part of our triune being is out of alignment, so, too, will be our life. Imagine you've built a three legged stool, but one of the stool legs is broken in half. That's not going to be a very effective stool, is it? You may be able to balance for a while, but anything you do on only two legs will be shaky, uncertain, and ineffective. Eventually, the strain will damage the other legs as well.
You were not created for a sub-par, partial life.
You were created for wholeness, and the only way to live wholly is to bring alignment to your three parts.
Finding alignment is the most important thing you can do.
Whole body alignment is not just a luxury that the wealthy or the time-rich people can afford. It's actually the most important thing you can do for yourself.
It means that you no longer ignore one part of your created self in order to overly satisfy the others.
It means not neglecting your physical body to focus solely on the spirit or on God (trust me, he doesn't want this).
It means addressing mental health and how it impacts your life and body.
It means recognizing there is more than this world you can see and seeking the Truth.
And most importantly, it's about the connection of all three: how each are intimately woven together and how one cannot be healthy unless all three are.
Identify your areas of weakness, and start making a change.
Whole body health "workouts" will vary for everyone, because some people are naturally more interested or skilled in certain areas. Take a look at these three areas and see what you need to work on:
Finding spiritual health is truly about having a relationship with God that defines who you are. This is where you find an identity and a purpose that allows for you to be fulfilled in your business, health, relationships, and even by yourself. This could look like:
Knowing and walking in a life purpose
Knowing your identity
Understanding the realm of the spirit
Understanding "why" you're doing what you're doing
Understanding your personal power and responsibility
Confidence about ones self
Some things you may be struggling with:
Receiving love and affection
Religious ideology that God doesn't care about our physical bodies
Religious ideology that eternal life doesn't start until you reach heaven after you die
Sacrificing physical or mental needs in order to "serve God"
Limiting beliefs from childhood trauma
Having no idea who you are or how God sees you
Struggling to understand God or yourself (including your own reactions and choices)
If you've experienced trauma, or know that your beliefs are holding you back, start here. Your beliefs are your life thermostat, if they are stuck, everything else will be. This is extremely hard to do alone, you need to find someone who knows how to help you dive into and alter these beliefs (hint: I do!). Even I have people who help me, because though I know what to do, I have a lot of blindspots when it comes to myself, just like everyone else does.
Mental health is more than just depression or other disorders. It's about how you think about, speak about, and talk about yourself and others. Your beliefs severely impact your mental health. When you have a healthy mind, your thoughts change, which makes your habits and actions change. Mental health could look like:
Thoughtful response vs. emotional reactions
Freedom from mental illness
Self-control over choices, thoughts, and speech
Quality of relationships and the ability to maintain healthy boundaries
Self-Awareness and the ability to address/overcome struggles
Quality morning/sleep routines
Confidence to dive into emotions/limiting thoughts and find source without fear
Freedom from food-phobia
Freedom from the scale
Some things you may be struggling with:
Depression, anxiety, PTSD, or other debilitating mental health issues
Inability to make choices
Inability to say NO to other people
Being a workaholic
Inability to reach certain goals
Struggle falling or staying asleep
Toxic thought patterns and negative self-talk
Negative thoughts about self or others, self-hate, or inability to see worth or beauty
Your mentality is the driver of your habits and choices, which impact your life on a daily basis. Start focusing on the positive. Start looking for good things in yourself. Start taking control of the way you think and speak, and it will change your life.
Physical health is the easiest to explain, because it's what we are constantly looking at. But just because you look good in the mirror doesn't mean you're healthy. For example, not having enough body fat is actually quite dangerous, just like having too much is. In order to have a healthy body, it would look like:
Maintaining healthy body composition (not too much fat, not too little fat)
Quality and nutrient dense food choices (majority of the time)
Getting enough sleep
Recovering from workouts
Some things you may be struggling with:
Lack of knowledge about how to shop/prepare food
Lack of knowledge or intimidation about workouts or the gym
Inconsistency in workouts or nutrition
Poor sleep or inconsistent sleep
Low muscle mass
When these three are all healthy, you will find that each are strengthened by the others. When you believe you are loved and have purpose, your thoughts say you are loved, and your actions are based on that self-love. Everything you struggle with in fitness is linked to your mental or spiritual health, which is why it's so important that you don't neglect them in your fitness program.
Dive in to these areas your struggling in and see where you need help. As always, feel free to reach out to me (either through a message or by booking a free consultation call) and I can help identify where you're struggling, as well as how to bring wide-spread healing.